informal encounters that often keep people who are not in my circle of friends often happen with such a scenario. Before I kept commenting that my primary professional activity was to practice as a psychologist, or concerned in those situations that required it better. Now I just assumed that I am and the referral is no longer strategic but natural. Wait rejoiced soil reactions of others, which as I said, are the most common. What I hear most - Well no. It is not what I hear most. They are usually other more comments humorous, is the question How can a psychologist? Or what will help me talk to a psychologist? So I, if I felt the urge, defended what he could do for them to end more or less convincing. Now I speak of the inhibition. What is that? ask me and I begin my litany of arguments, that varies as the moment inspired. Inhibition we have all more or less established and more or less connected with people with whom we interact or depending on the situation or problem we face. In general, we feel insecure in talking about our problems, perhaps because of social conditioning not to show our weaknesses, for being a little closer conduct or perhaps, we limit our intimate circle of family and friendships. There are more reasons of course. Showed inhibited behavior when it comes to what we are concerned, we do not seek help from others, we do not confess. Inhibition is low emotional expressiveness that often arises at worst we are locked into a vicious cycle that costs us out, taking the terrible consequences that are difficult to adapt to stressful situations, deteriorating coping with these and disrupt social interaction normal. Who has not ever alone when you felt bad? Surely all or the majority. And that has helped someone? Has probably helped the "film" to mount the subject is enlarged worsening their coping.
Kalgan in 1988 (Phew, that long ago. I seek some more recent and compelling research) conducted an experiment to test the difference between what he called Inhibited and uninhibited. The former were less likely to initiate an interaction, they were embarrassing, cautious, elusive, quiet, reserved and shy and second generally sociable, talkative and spontaneous when interacting with strangers. After 5 years of longitudinal study found that Inhibited presented the higher heart rates and high rates of stress-related markers (urinary norepinephrine and cortisol in saliva).
What I find in consultation is obsessed people, no matter what, whether through ideas, people or objects and situations. And what they usually do? Try to resist them. Do you remember the announcement of the White Bear? Young announced mission was not to think about a white bear as a result he appeared Polar Bears everywhere. The old adage "What we resist persists." Try to inhibit the thoughts leads to enlargement of them. We try to distract us with other thing and what happens is that the distractor is associated in our minds the thought that try to escape with the end result of our obsession recordarmos more effectively if possible. Try to suppress violent thoughts, embarrassing or threatening exhibit makes people autonomic nervous activity (heart rate, sweating, etc) than when they are talking about them with the consequent deleterious effect on the health of the individual.
I do not need to delve into scientific studies to aerate the virtues and benefits of state: is a normal and healthy way to deal with an unpleasant event, we can learn about what happened and how we remember allowing to deepen the experience and create a more rational mental model changing the way in which the event is represented in memory encoding it linguistically and organizing it so easy and understandable for the person, liberándol of the inventive product that anxiety that always play tricks, as anxiety filter makes turning the mind into a funnel passes only the most catastrophic ideas.
Find support at a time of need can become a company the less showy. Our family and friends try to listen and give us the best advice always from the standpoint of personal experience or our own field of knowledge with varying degrees of success and repeated as the help we received from friends is like "Do not do this, do not do that, if I were you would not be doing that, etc "leaving the feeling that they need help themselves, they are right, but:" I can not. " This help is there, emergency provided it is not prolonged in time, because who has not exhausted to a friend telling the same story? O Who has not heard a hundred times and sick friend that this is not what we do if we left from it? It is not always easy to help. People generally are not receptive to negative information and feel uncomfortable with requests for help, perhaps fear of not meeting expectations, among a thousand reasons. At the end of the hearing problems are unpleasant and carries its own level of stress for the person who listens to what we charge our network of social support or at least the full of stress. Nor is it easy to get help: first, one does not always know what's wrong What am I to say to the psychologist, I feel bad? Yes, that is enough. (This would call for help for another post that I will.)
Concluding the post affirm the effect of expressing emotions and intrusive thoughts as a direct consequence their decline, reducing the emotional impact it can have on our health and reducing the impact on our daily lives. And yes, you probably have a formidable social network of support, although limited scientific knowledge to give the necessary guidance in this evil emotional journey. The psychologist is a person prepared to know all the contingencies to carry out this guide and the best prepared to listen. Without going into all I could do for you, simply say that you will listen and after that, that would be sufficient reason to consider having it when you need it.
